Risking humiliation for growth: on publishing your first novel

Risking humiliation for growth: on publishing your first novel

13 January 2016 has a great big red ‘X’ on my calendar. It’s the day I finally decided to publish my first novel.

Admittedly, I could have spent a few more years crafting the plot and editing the book to perfection. A Hollywood director may have caught wind of my award-winning masterpiece and used it for his blockbuster movie starring a host of famous starlets. Okay, okay, so that’s a bit far-fetched, but I guess my point is that it was hardly perfect. It’s not gonna change any lives or be quoted to exhaustion. But it was my first book. And it has been an exhausting and exhilarating journey. (more…)

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Overcoming bigotry in South Africa

Overcoming bigotry in South Africa

Hatred – any kind of hatred – is about fear, first and foremost. I have experienced hatred in myself, I have felt it, acted on it, been it before – and it has always been about fear.

It is a fear of losing control, a fear of change, a fear of loss, a fear of being exposed or having to face your demons. It is a fear of not being able to face reality. (more…)

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#FeesMustFall – why all South Africans should fight

#FeesMustFall – why all South Africans should fight

I didn’t study directly after school. There was no money, and I fell pregnant shortly after so all money I earned went towards my household. Years later I studied through Unisa because it was cheaper and I received a bursary at my job which I had to pay back partially when I left. I also took out a study loan for further studies – something which wasn’t easy as you need to confirm income or have someone to provide surety. It took me two years to pay off a loan for a six-month course.

Now imagine how much harder it must be for someone who grew up in real poverty and oppression – not my pseudo-poorness which I perceived to live in from my standpoint of entitlement. (more…)

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5 Creepy customs we’re glad are over

5 Creepy customs we’re glad are over

The world can be a pretty creepy place, and despite the very real threat of global warming, I’m rather glad we’re not living in them olden days.

To reiterate my point, I’ve made a list of the 5 creepiest customs and practices from the days of yore.  (more…)

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Social media activism and the loss of compassion

Social media activism and the loss of compassion

Some people are so concerned with macro socio-cultural values that they inadvertently debase micro socio-cultural values.

Fact: the global culture has led to a more knowledgeable and interconnected individual.

The result is a global social network which does not shy away from addressing issues of a social or political nature on social forums and media. While the aim of such discussions may be inherently positive – such as to educate or enlighten others or draw attention to negative occurences, tendencies and values – the end-result is most often negative. In the name of ‘global accountability’, many individuals on such forums are marginalised, alienated and may suffer psychological bullying for either challenging views or not formulating their views in a sufficiently logical and coherent way. (more…)

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The right to be offended

The right to be offended

When you read the comment threads of most social media posts and online news desks you will see that everyone has an opinion.

And that is kinda great – it’s very democratic after all.

But if you look at those opinions closely, you’ll see that everyone’s offended. (more…)

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Music snobbery and the haughtiness of us elders

Music snobbery and the haughtiness of us elders

“Leave One Direction alone!”
Did you say that in the right voice?

Okay, I’m not that passionate about defending boy bands and teeny-popstars – I have never been a fan. I am, however, a bit perplexed at the amount of energy adults put into dissing boy bands and teen stars.
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Death is a tense thing: RIP Ryan Adams

Death is a tense thing: RIP Ryan Adams

Death is a tense thing. Quite literally.

Just now you were an ‘are’, but now you are a ‘were’. And it’s even weirder that I’d not known for two whole months that you had died. So I’d tensed’ you wrong for two bloody months. And yes, I did actually think of you the other day, out of the blue – and it was present tense. You were still here, see? Except you weren’t. But I didn’t know that. Death had tricked me.

Death obviously does not need to follow the rules of tenses. It creates the tenses. It’s so intense. (more…)

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Juicy Apples – a bit of lust and stuff

Juicy Apples – a bit of lust and stuff

I absolutely loathe and love days like these. I feel strangely empowered, magical, walking in a different dimension. And the dreams, wuhah! I woke up wet, panting, several times throughout the night… with blurry images of ecstasy and warmth and exposure trailing through my skin. Goosebumps.
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That age-old toilet-tissue problem

That age-old toilet-tissue problem

Public bathrooms are tedious at best, but they do present the odd interesting challenge, much to my dismay.
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